"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You can go to great lengths to be a jerk, the difference is in emotion. Act uncaring and you will win, if you are driven by emotions (ie. anger) in your *******ness you will fail.
 

DJ_Tekinkel

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Not sure what you mean "how to be heartless" but ill just attack it with some knowledge.

Just realise that emotion and logic do not mix, listen to your logic first

How many times have you done something cause you "FELT you had to do it" but you knew it wasnt going to work or was bad. And it did end up bad.

Anyway on a different note

You shouldn't care what people say, because who cares it's their opinion. you are BETTER than that to let yourself waste YOUR energy on THEIR opinions which do NOTHING to you unless you let them.

basically be confident, strong and truly believe in yourself, and you will not be bothered by others, and make the life you truly want for youself.

On another note
Perhaps you meant "how to be strong emotionally"?
 

DJ_Tekinkel

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Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
 

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DJ_Tekinkel said:
Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
This is true!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ThatMysteriousGuy

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GQzSwagStarFamous said:
in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
You're not coming across as a heartless jerk, you're just not negatively impacted by the world around you.

You should not care emotionally about what people say to you. It gives them power over you.

I'm new at this site, so I'm not sure where "external frame of reference" vs "internal frame of reference" would be but you want the latter to be successful as a man in general. If you have an external frame of reference you'll be at the mercy of the woman as well as others around you.
 
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