"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It's clear that the way I'm thinking is wrong. But trying (for over three years now) to 'change' is apparantly not helping, it's in fact making it worse.
I do enjoy my current hobby as it is something I've always wanted to do. The side effect of the fact it's impressing too many people is a nice side effect, but is not why I chose it.
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Focus on your weaknesses one at a time, and take them head on. If you have problems approaching, become the approaching god. If you have problems making eye contact, make eye contact with everyone. Do all this 5hit until it becomes normal. Keep taking your weaknesses and turn them into strengths.
You can't just one day say "I'm going to have confidence" and have it from that day on. It takes work, and a lot of it. Turning your weaknesses into strengths will build confidence.