"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How to be happy alone
- Thread starter SayWhat
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It's clear that the way I'm thinking is wrong. But trying (for over three years now) to 'change' is apparantly not helping, it's in fact making it worse.
I do enjoy my current hobby as it is something I've always wanted to do. The side effect of the fact it's impressing too many people is a nice side effect, but is not why I chose it.
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Focus on your weaknesses one at a time, and take them head on. If you have problems approaching, become the approaching god. If you have problems making eye contact, make eye contact with everyone. Do all this 5hit until it becomes normal. Keep taking your weaknesses and turn them into strengths.
You can't just one day say "I'm going to have confidence" and have it from that day on. It takes work, and a lot of it. Turning your weaknesses into strengths will build confidence.