"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

How to avoid the creep trap?

Scream

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2005
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
Location
U.K.
Ok, i've just got loads of girls who think i'm a creep at work. How do i avoid these situations?! It's really hard cause it seems like woman enjoy the very things that they complain about. For instance being touched, having outrageous things said etc. How can i avoid this becoming a sexual harrassment suit when all i want to do is make love and friends. :( HELP!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
Alter the way you interact. If they are complaining..then you aren't doing it right. Why not just act like a normal person and converse with them first before tryign to pick them up, yes?
 

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
Ahh, I operate on different principles then you would. It's like doing a 180. But..you just have to think about what creeps them out..and you change that.

Girls send signals, and even you know!
 

Scream

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2005
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
Location
U.K.
so by the complete opposite of what i do is not say anything or touch them.

I'm just not entirely sure what i do that creeps them out, and maybe even if i did how i'd change it. I've slept with one girl from work (been there 2.5 months) and got about 3 numbers/e-mails on top of that... maybe ij ust stick out in my approach?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
Ok, I dont' just sit here and watch porn you know. Give me a little respect..lol.

You'll have to keep doing your thing and OBSERVE their reactions. If you can tell they aren't enjoying it, or are giving longshot signals to their gals..you are doing something wrong and should drop her for the day.

Just keep observing and adjusting..and you'll understand what I mean.

(of course..there's the chance they will permently think of you as a creepy person, and that's nothing I can do.)
 

Scream

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2005
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
Location
U.K.
I suppose i could kill them and bury them in the park? j/k. I need more social proof methinks.
 

Scream

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2005
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
Location
U.K.
I think the thing is they really get off knocking me down a peg, and I'm quite a powerful guy personality wise, so they must feel like they need to go to extreme measures to claim back a bit of dignity that they think they've lost, i actually respect them but maybe it just doesn't come across. :(
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Doesn't anyone here feel that dipping your pen in the company ink is a bad thing? :confused:
 
Top