"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How to AVOID being flaked on before a date
- Thread starter Your_Royal_Flyness
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Worrying about whether or not if a girl is gonna flake is like worrying about if the sun is going to rise.
If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. And if it isn't, then it isn't. The only thing we can do as men is ask the girl out. If the chick isn't interested, and she flakes out, then that's on her. You can't avoid it, because as we all know, sometimes a girl just isn't interested.
You just have to go into this game knowing that you can't bat 1.000. The only way to truly avoid flaking is to avoid asking women on dates. And there's no way we're gonna stop doing that.
So, warning signs or no warning signs, if the night ends with a girl flaking, then it's on to the next one.
If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. And if it isn't, then it isn't. The only thing we can do as men is ask the girl out. If the chick isn't interested, and she flakes out, then that's on her. You can't avoid it, because as we all know, sometimes a girl just isn't interested.
You just have to go into this game knowing that you can't bat 1.000. The only way to truly avoid flaking is to avoid asking women on dates. And there's no way we're gonna stop doing that.
So, warning signs or no warning signs, if the night ends with a girl flaking, then it's on to the next one.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
In most instances, getting flaked on can be avoided. Guys repeatedly shoot themselves in the foot by being too available and acting too needy. The short vid is meant for guys to gauge her interest level and to react accordingly. While a guy is welcomed to play out the planned date from a hesitant girl, knowing the flake warnings helps him know where he stands.Iceberg said:
Nutz
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My anti-flake techniques I've picked up over the years:
1. Call her around 10 or 11am the day of your planned date. Say you'll be a little late, you have an errand to run, and ask if she's okay with that. If she's going to flake she'll latch onto this as an easy excuse to get out of going.
2. Have plans of your own, you're a busy guy, right? Right? Tell her to call you when she's on her way. The idea with this one is that if she doesn't call then no sweat off your ass because you've already got stuff going on. If she does show up and didn't call then it's still her fault for not following directions.
1. Call her around 10 or 11am the day of your planned date. Say you'll be a little late, you have an errand to run, and ask if she's okay with that. If she's going to flake she'll latch onto this as an easy excuse to get out of going.
2. Have plans of your own, you're a busy guy, right? Right? Tell her to call you when she's on her way. The idea with this one is that if she doesn't call then no sweat off your ass because you've already got stuff going on. If she does show up and didn't call then it's still her fault for not following directions.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.