Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to AVOID being flaked on before a date
- Thread starter Your_Royal_Flyness
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Worrying about whether or not if a girl is gonna flake is like worrying about if the sun is going to rise.
If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. And if it isn't, then it isn't. The only thing we can do as men is ask the girl out. If the chick isn't interested, and she flakes out, then that's on her. You can't avoid it, because as we all know, sometimes a girl just isn't interested.
You just have to go into this game knowing that you can't bat 1.000. The only way to truly avoid flaking is to avoid asking women on dates. And there's no way we're gonna stop doing that.
So, warning signs or no warning signs, if the night ends with a girl flaking, then it's on to the next one.
If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. And if it isn't, then it isn't. The only thing we can do as men is ask the girl out. If the chick isn't interested, and she flakes out, then that's on her. You can't avoid it, because as we all know, sometimes a girl just isn't interested.
You just have to go into this game knowing that you can't bat 1.000. The only way to truly avoid flaking is to avoid asking women on dates. And there's no way we're gonna stop doing that.
So, warning signs or no warning signs, if the night ends with a girl flaking, then it's on to the next one.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
In most instances, getting flaked on can be avoided. Guys repeatedly shoot themselves in the foot by being too available and acting too needy. The short vid is meant for guys to gauge her interest level and to react accordingly. While a guy is welcomed to play out the planned date from a hesitant girl, knowing the flake warnings helps him know where he stands.Iceberg said:
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My anti-flake techniques I've picked up over the years:
1. Call her around 10 or 11am the day of your planned date. Say you'll be a little late, you have an errand to run, and ask if she's okay with that. If she's going to flake she'll latch onto this as an easy excuse to get out of going.
2. Have plans of your own, you're a busy guy, right? Right? Tell her to call you when she's on her way. The idea with this one is that if she doesn't call then no sweat off your ass because you've already got stuff going on. If she does show up and didn't call then it's still her fault for not following directions.
1. Call her around 10 or 11am the day of your planned date. Say you'll be a little late, you have an errand to run, and ask if she's okay with that. If she's going to flake she'll latch onto this as an easy excuse to get out of going.
2. Have plans of your own, you're a busy guy, right? Right? Tell her to call you when she's on her way. The idea with this one is that if she doesn't call then no sweat off your ass because you've already got stuff going on. If she does show up and didn't call then it's still her fault for not following directions.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.