"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to ask her out?

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I'm not that experience with girls and only girls I've been out with are the ones who I've attended school with or worked with but recently I met this girl in GNC near my work. I've been there 4 times and we talk for like 10 to 15 mins and I can tell that she has high interest but I could be wrong and the only way to find out is to ask her out but I need advice whether I should ask her out or should I ask her join me for a coffee.. but not sure how to word it properly so that I don't come across as desperate. Just to let you know that I'm not a talker and often people think that I'm a quiet person.

Need Advice!!

Thanks,
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you've had four fifteen minute conversations with her, she already knows that you're interested, maybe desperate.

You are not more quiet than me or a lot of guys here are. So you can drop that excuse.

Relax! Ask her out. The worst thing that's going to happen is that she will say 'no'. No one will die or suffer embarrassment if she says no.

You've got this!
 
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Be in a hurry one day.. When the convo starts up smooth, say "hey, I gotta run... Let's pick this up later. How about tomorrow at 7pm and wherever?"

Or just say "I want to go to xxx place Thursday, are you free?".

Remember, "Rejection is better than regret"!
 
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MOTU said:
Be in a hurry one day.. When the convo starts up smooth, say "hey, I gotta run... Let's pick this up later. How about tomorrow at 7pm and wherever?"

Or just say "I want to go to xxx place Thursday, are you free?".

Remember, "Rejection is better than regret"!
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This is perfect. Be in a hurry, and ask real quick. There is no point in dragging it out with 15 minute conversations if you're not going to pull the trigger. If she says no, just say "ok, no problem, see ya!" And you jet on outta there.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dear Seeker,
Wrong mind set...you never ask them out,you just mention that you are going wherever,and that she is welcome to tag along!
 
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