"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how to ask a girl to prom? or do i even ask?!?!?!?ASAP
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If she really wanted to go with you, she wouldn't need to "get back to you".kingxxxman said:theminatar and stateofmind...thank you for your words.... i finally took action after being apathetic and did it in a "cute way" sorta of chumpy in my opininon but everyone asks" will you go to prom with me" and she told me she would get back to me... W.E i'm happy i did it and i can live with no regrets. thanks guys for the help. hopefully she says yes but im not holdin my breath.
I would just move on. Sh!t sucks, but there's plenty more out there.
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No, PERSISTANCE! No reason to give up.QuodErat said:If she really wanted to go with you, she wouldn't need to "get back to you".
I would just move on. Sh!t sucks, but there's plenty more out there.
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Remind her, don't ask every single day. Just ask once or twice here and there, remind her that you asked her and are still waiting for an answer. Don't pressure her because then she'll automatically say no.kingxxxman said:norwegian, you mentioned being persistent? I didn't see her all day and i don't think im gonna bug her about getting back to me so i don't seem desperate. I think i played off the situation when i asked off really nicely. What do you mean by being persistent and how do i do it?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Always assume the sale.
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Sounds like you're wearing a dress then. I'd say go for what I said.kingxxxman said:so next time i see her maybe something along the lines of "Hey_____, you pick out a dress yet? cause we gotta match"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Way too much. Just shut up and carpe the **** out of this diem.NorwegianDJ said:You ask too much
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Haha, I love that quote myself. Nice site.amohield said:Way too much. Just shut up and carpe the **** out of this diem.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Shut the **** up and go to prom with her already! :rock:kingxxxman said:norwegian your line also sounds like im wearing a dress as well lol...other suggestions?
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I know right, it's like we're controlling his life.QuodErat said:Shut the **** up and go to prom with her already! :rock:
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.