"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to argue like a lawyer

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I came across a video on Youtube about how to argue like a lawyer.

The lawyer explained there are two kinds of argument styles that lawyers are taught, IRAC and CRAC.

With IRAC, you start by stating the Issue, then find the Rules, then do an Analysis with the facts, and end with your Conclusion.

With CRAC, you sandwich things together by starting with your Conclusion, then the Rules, and Analysis, and then your Conclusion.

IRAC is scholarly argument and CRAC is persuasive argument.

Apparently, IRAC is taught in first year law school, but CRAC is usually not taught until later.

I did not know about the persuasive style of artument.

I bring this up because, well, it's interesting, and knowing how to argue is an important skill to have as it's useful in daily life. Not every day, hopefully, but it comes in handy.

Here is a funny clip from Curb Your Enthusiasm.. Larry David finds out that his good lawyer is not Jewish. When he finds out his good lawyer is Swedish, he says, "I got a Swede lawyer?! She's going to get everything!" and storms out. Later in the episode, Larry fires his good lawyer for a bad lawyer and the wife ends up getting everything. The clip has nothing to do with IRAC or CRAC, it's just funny.

 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was taught irac as the way to write case briefs. It's also what they like to see in bar exam answers. Usually there are two rules, a majority rule and a minority one, and you work through it with each rule.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to split the difference
How to win an argument
Not sure if either really helps with women TBH
 

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Too many people enjoy arguing over trivial things, especially in relationships. Then they wonder why it devolves into toxicity.

Perhaps they should be more concerned with learning how to properly compromise than how to properly argue.
It’s like when you experience enough pain, you become motivated to find an alternative- arguing with your significant other or any relationship is the same way.

Opposite attorneys are called adversaries for a reason. The law is looking to convince some arbitrator to interpret or enforce a specific rule - personal relationships are almost never so black and white. Competition rarely breeds good will between adversaries. Relationships should not be adversarial.
 
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