There's this one HB who's interested but haven't developed a good relationship yet. Chatted on fb a couple times and she gave me her #. Chatted in my class once but then the teacher rearranged the seats. I've seen her a couple times in the hall but she always just looks in off into the distance to avoid me. I don't know what to talk about, that's the problemo. We used to play the same sport and I talked about that but i'm feeling out of stuff to say. How do I approach
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
how to approach
- Thread starter asianbboy
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
apocolipto
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Practice spontanious convo.Here is what I did once and it helped.
Make small cards with one word on each card.Look at one card and talk about that topic for 30 seconds. Next card, talk about that topic for 30 secs. You can do this alone. Eventually you will be able to come up with anything to talk about.
Make small cards with one word on each card.Look at one card and talk about that topic for 30 seconds. Next card, talk about that topic for 30 secs. You can do this alone. Eventually you will be able to come up with anything to talk about.
Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
The teacher probably notice the romance going on:crackup:
apocolipto said:
That's genius and a great exercise. I think I"m going to give it a try. But yea man, like the guys said, first off practice talking to everybody. The beauty of practicing on everybody is that by the time you get to your dream girl, talking to her will be a piece of cake.
Next piece of advice would be to be present in the moment. Talking about class and school sports is boring. That's what average guys do but not you. You're Don Juan. With that said be present in the moment and that means start talking about what's going on around you at the time and LISTEN for her response. That's probably the most important thing.
Every sentence she gives you back will have a something you can build one. And that's where the card exercise should come into play. When you hear a word of her's, that will spark a story or a comment in your head that you can use.
Best of luck!
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You have her number, why not just invite her somewhere out of school?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.