There's this one HB who's interested but haven't developed a good relationship yet. Chatted on fb a couple times and she gave me her #. Chatted in my class once but then the teacher rearranged the seats. I've seen her a couple times in the hall but she always just looks in off into the distance to avoid me. I don't know what to talk about, that's the problemo. We used to play the same sport and I talked about that but i'm feeling out of stuff to say. How do I approach
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how to approach
- Thread starter asianbboy
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
apocolipto
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Practice spontanious convo.Here is what I did once and it helped.
Make small cards with one word on each card.Look at one card and talk about that topic for 30 seconds. Next card, talk about that topic for 30 secs. You can do this alone. Eventually you will be able to come up with anything to talk about.
Make small cards with one word on each card.Look at one card and talk about that topic for 30 seconds. Next card, talk about that topic for 30 secs. You can do this alone. Eventually you will be able to come up with anything to talk about.
Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
The teacher probably notice the romance going on:crackup:
apocolipto said:
That's genius and a great exercise. I think I"m going to give it a try. But yea man, like the guys said, first off practice talking to everybody. The beauty of practicing on everybody is that by the time you get to your dream girl, talking to her will be a piece of cake.
Next piece of advice would be to be present in the moment. Talking about class and school sports is boring. That's what average guys do but not you. You're Don Juan. With that said be present in the moment and that means start talking about what's going on around you at the time and LISTEN for her response. That's probably the most important thing.
Every sentence she gives you back will have a something you can build one. And that's where the card exercise should come into play. When you hear a word of her's, that will spark a story or a comment in your head that you can use.
Best of luck!
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You have her number, why not just invite her somewhere out of school?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.