GtarPlayr73
Senior Don Juan
By now, some of you may well be familiar with the situation i am in, women-wise. I have this cute little 25 year-old FB, who is the daughter of my landlady. We all live in the same house, but I live in a studio apartment they partitioned-off from the rest of the house. The girl and i have been on-again and off-again since October. I came on to her and soon after, we started having sex, going out, and just hanging out watching TV and movies. Since then, it’s gone like this: she is “into me”. I get AFC. She goes cold. I stop focusing on her. She warms up. I go AFC and make her my only plate again. She goes cold. And cold is where things are now. I'm starting to look at more plates and am finally understanding that everything she does is not done out of genuine affection and desire, but is rather, designed to get and keep my attention, including sex. Since i stopped visiting her and stopped being so indulgent with her, she's gone completely off the radar. We talk cordially, but she no longer wants me, visits me, etc. Last sex: 3 weeks ago. Lately, she’s been out and about at night more often. I now think she might be sexing a male friend of hers, who she clicks with and laughs with much more than she does with me. There’s no comparison.
My question for you is: how do i answer her when she inevitably pulls her guilt-trip routine?
Where have you been?
You haven't come over lately.
Is anything wrong?
Because i'm the tenant, i need to handle this delicately. I can't say "because you're more interested in my attention than you are in me" or "because i realized you aren't into me.." or “because we haven’t had sex in weeks”, etc. So, i'm prepared to just exude nonchalance and say "Nothing's wrong. I'm just going with the flow and doing my thing. If you want to hang out, you know where to find me...". Casual and smooth. The most direct I might be would be to say “Things have gotten kinda stale lately and I thought we could use some space”.
See, this girl is all about me once I’ve denied her attention, or at least she puts on the act of being into me once again. She lays on the sex and visits and everything. But when she fizzles out and loses interest, I have to virtually cut her off. It takes her a few weeks to realize that I’m no longer focused on her and then she’s hot again. So frustrating because, she is amazingly cute, busty, beautiful, and charming. I’m confident in what I have prepared to say and, believe me, she WILL ask. She did it last time. She asked why I hadn’t visited and laid on a very subtle guilt trip, like I’m somehow being unfriendly and she’s been waiting and wondering. This girl is incredibly aloof and very proud, not to mention, sarcastic and cynical. The only way to get to her is to completely ignore her. It’s answering her questions effectively, after having been so AFC, that I’m concerned about.
My question for you is: how do i answer her when she inevitably pulls her guilt-trip routine?
Where have you been?
You haven't come over lately.
Is anything wrong?
Because i'm the tenant, i need to handle this delicately. I can't say "because you're more interested in my attention than you are in me" or "because i realized you aren't into me.." or “because we haven’t had sex in weeks”, etc. So, i'm prepared to just exude nonchalance and say "Nothing's wrong. I'm just going with the flow and doing my thing. If you want to hang out, you know where to find me...". Casual and smooth. The most direct I might be would be to say “Things have gotten kinda stale lately and I thought we could use some space”.
See, this girl is all about me once I’ve denied her attention, or at least she puts on the act of being into me once again. She lays on the sex and visits and everything. But when she fizzles out and loses interest, I have to virtually cut her off. It takes her a few weeks to realize that I’m no longer focused on her and then she’s hot again. So frustrating because, she is amazingly cute, busty, beautiful, and charming. I’m confident in what I have prepared to say and, believe me, she WILL ask. She did it last time. She asked why I hadn’t visited and laid on a very subtle guilt trip, like I’m somehow being unfriendly and she’s been waiting and wondering. This girl is incredibly aloof and very proud, not to mention, sarcastic and cynical. The only way to get to her is to completely ignore her. It’s answering her questions effectively, after having been so AFC, that I’m concerned about.