"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to act in a REALATIONSHIP?

rob23

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this is simple, im in a relationship and im 21 years old never been in one in my life. list some DO's and DONT'S
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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type of girl?
the type of relationship you want?
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Do's and Don'ts
-Don't tell her how much you like her everyday or love
-Don't call her everyday
-Don't have to see her everyday
-Don't do everything she wants to do
-Don't do everything for her
-Don't buy her gifts all the time
-Don't take any disrespect
-Be aggressive
-Be confident
-Be the alpha male
-Tease her/make fun of her (playfully)
-Make the descions
-Be the leader
-Don't take sh!t
-Ask her how her day was
-Tell her she looks good, smells good, compliment her hair... Not too much
-Be a gentlemen
-Stand up for her

Anyways the list can go on and on and on. These are just some ideas to get you on the right track.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Do's and Don'ts
-Don't tell her how much you like her everyday or love
-Don't call her everyday
-Don't have to see her everyday
-Don't do everything she wants to do
-Don't do everything for her
-Don't buy her gifts all the time
-Don't take any disrespect
-Be aggressive
-Be confident
-Be the alpha male
-Tease her/make fun of her (playfully)
-Make the descions
-Be the leader
-Don't take sh!t
-Ask her how her day was
-Tell her she looks good, smells good, compliment her hair... Not too much
-Be a gentlemen
-Stand up for her

Anyways the list can go on and on and on. These are just some ideas to get you on the right track.
you forgot an important one

do - plan to bang all her friends :crackup: in good time
 

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I think most importantly...KNOW what you want...If you have never been in a relationship before and are anxious to get into one, know exactly what you want first. I wasted two years because I did not know what I wanted.

If you are not getting what you want don't kid yourself, move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't get too comfortable in the relationship...EVER...she will begin thinking about the guy you used to be and begin thinking about trading you up for someone else whose like that guy you used to be or in her eyes better.

Don't ignore behaviour change in her. Whether its bad by acting disrespectful towards you or good by being better than she ever has. Behaviour change of any type typically spells trouble usually of the cheating variety. Either she's going to leave you or she wants you to forgive her for cheating depending on which extreme behaviour change she exhibits out of these most of the time. Extreme behaviour change can also indicate she's pregnant but scared of telling you or she wants you to ask her to marry you but yeah extreme behaviour change is something you always have to be wary of and keep an eye out for. Its usually bad news.
 

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keep it coming

Wow solid advice..... And for the guy that asked the type? She’s had a bf for 2 years, first everything with her. She’s getting over him I’m not rebound guy he’s long gone...so I'm competing with her ex that she had a very close connection with, hard competition. He’s holding on to the alpha male role pretty good, taking he had a huge head start, and for the other guy I know what I want I haven’t been in a relationship because I never thought any girl was worth trying ........... once again in a relationship dos and don’ts now?
 

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i notice the game all u guys want to play shes playing it on me and its driving me crazy (don't call everyday, don't chill everyday, u have other things to do, but same time show u care) lol grls got me wiped dude some word of advice from my brothers on this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NickSCFC2000

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Sure it just that she's not really bothered about you, rather than playing games?

Just thought I'd make you feel more insecure about things ;)
 
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Do NOT fall in "Love", "Lust" with her!!! Unless she is your wife!!!
 

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what's the meaning of "Don't get too comfortable in the relationship"?
 
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