"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to act in a REALATIONSHIP?
- Thread starter rob23
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Crazy Asian
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the type of relationship you want?
I.A.F.Y.B.
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-Don't tell her how much you like her everyday or love
-Don't call her everyday
-Don't have to see her everyday
-Don't do everything she wants to do
-Don't do everything for her
-Don't buy her gifts all the time
-Don't take any disrespect
-Be aggressive
-Be confident
-Be the alpha male
-Tease her/make fun of her (playfully)
-Make the descions
-Be the leader
-Don't take sh!t
-Ask her how her day was
-Tell her she looks good, smells good, compliment her hair... Not too much
-Be a gentlemen
-Stand up for her
Anyways the list can go on and on and on. These are just some ideas to get you on the right track.
Dongfu
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you forgot an important oneI.A.F.Y.B. said:
do - plan to bang all her friends :crackup: in good time
If you are not getting what you want don't kid yourself, move on.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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Don't ignore behaviour change in her. Whether its bad by acting disrespectful towards you or good by being better than she ever has. Behaviour change of any type typically spells trouble usually of the cheating variety. Either she's going to leave you or she wants you to forgive her for cheating depending on which extreme behaviour change she exhibits out of these most of the time. Extreme behaviour change can also indicate she's pregnant but scared of telling you or she wants you to ask her to marry you but yeah extreme behaviour change is something you always have to be wary of and keep an eye out for. Its usually bad news.
Maxtro
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Wow solid advice..... And for the guy that asked the type? She’s had a bf for 2 years, first everything with her. She’s getting over him I’m not rebound guy he’s long gone...so I'm competing with her ex that she had a very close connection with, hard competition. He’s holding on to the alpha male role pretty good, taking he had a huge head start, and for the other guy I know what I want I haven’t been in a relationship because I never thought any girl was worth trying ........... once again in a relationship dos and don’ts now?
IceCream
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Always leave her wanting more
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NickSCFC2000
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Just thought I'd make you feel more insecure about things
Last Man Standing
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