Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Now thats a very good point.Francisco d'Anconia said:They're all the same height when they're on their back. It's pretty much the same if they are on their knees or on all fours.![]()
Short, skinny, a little shapely... and good and stacked (top and bottom)... had one girlfriend a while back to those specs and damn I miss her... her body anyway (~5'2", 105 lbs). Most of the girls I've dated have been around my height or shorter (5'9") of varying sizes... but none really to my absolute preference.Passion said:how talllllll
Actually, I've found that if the height gap is maybe 8" or more, then doggystyle is more awkward because they are noticeably lower than you.Francisco d'Anconia said:They're all the same height when they're on their back. It's pretty much the same if they are on their knees or on all fours.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That is exactly the type of girls I like the most, 5'2" and 105 lbs. Not a lot of them around though. I prefer shorter girls because they make me feel "bigger".Archaxis said:Short, skinny, a little shapely... and good and stacked (top and bottom)... had one girlfriend a while back to those specs and damn I miss her... her body anyway (~5'2", 105 lbs). Most of the girls I've dated have been around my height or shorter (5'9") of varying sizes... but none really to my absolute preference.![]()
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Does this have anything to do with midgets?wayword said:Actually, I've found that if the height gap is maybe 8" or more, then doggystyle is more awkward because they are noticeably lower than you.
I'm with you on that one. I'm seeing this one woman who always wears heels all of the time. They aren't stilettos but it's still all good. I'm so glad she's not into flip-flops.MightyMate said:I like small sexy *****es on high heeled shoes
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.