Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Now thats a very good point.Francisco d'Anconia said:They're all the same height when they're on their back. It's pretty much the same if they are on their knees or on all fours.![]()
Short, skinny, a little shapely... and good and stacked (top and bottom)... had one girlfriend a while back to those specs and damn I miss her... her body anyway (~5'2", 105 lbs). Most of the girls I've dated have been around my height or shorter (5'9") of varying sizes... but none really to my absolute preference.Passion said:how talllllll
Actually, I've found that if the height gap is maybe 8" or more, then doggystyle is more awkward because they are noticeably lower than you.Francisco d'Anconia said:They're all the same height when they're on their back. It's pretty much the same if they are on their knees or on all fours.![]()
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That is exactly the type of girls I like the most, 5'2" and 105 lbs. Not a lot of them around though. I prefer shorter girls because they make me feel "bigger".Archaxis said:Short, skinny, a little shapely... and good and stacked (top and bottom)... had one girlfriend a while back to those specs and damn I miss her... her body anyway (~5'2", 105 lbs). Most of the girls I've dated have been around my height or shorter (5'9") of varying sizes... but none really to my absolute preference.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Does this have anything to do with midgets?wayword said:Actually, I've found that if the height gap is maybe 8" or more, then doggystyle is more awkward because they are noticeably lower than you.
I'm with you on that one. I'm seeing this one woman who always wears heels all of the time. They aren't stilettos but it's still all good. I'm so glad she's not into flip-flops.MightyMate said:I like small sexy *****es on high heeled shoes
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.