"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How should I react in such a case?

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I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
 
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flexion_ said:
Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
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do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
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I really doubt she'll come back. Even then, these AW flakey chicks have a tendency to ask you out, and then STILL not show up. They just want the ego boost. There's no real interest here.
 
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BannedGod said:
I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
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If she really comes back, i suggest you don't blow her off.

At your current state, she's definitely not attracted to you yet and I mean Yet. Thus, her priority is on other guys.

The real attraction is via face to face interactions and your performance. (C&F, Negs. Light and funny, kinos.) Most probably if she finds you interesting after a date. The next date will not be as flakey.

What I would suggest is not to rule her out. But find other new prospects while continuing to ask her out (but not like calling her everyday).

Get her out. not in a desperate state, but @ a light funny state.
 
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how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
 
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Don't get hung up on her.

It's her problem, move on. Forget about her. She probably won't come back. Probably the only way is time. Just don't try and win her back, and don't let it bother you.
 
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Why don't you just find a girl who won't flake on you instead of thinking about one who's done so numerous times?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
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three times

Lol most people say forget about her, but the ones that say don't do it yet have some good arguments :O
 
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