"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How should I react in such a case?

BannedGod

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I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
 

BannedGod

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flexion_ said:
Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Phyzzle

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do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
I really doubt she'll come back. Even then, these AW flakey chicks have a tendency to ask you out, and then STILL not show up. They just want the ego boost. There's no real interest here.
 

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BannedGod said:
I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
If she really comes back, i suggest you don't blow her off.

At your current state, she's definitely not attracted to you yet and I mean Yet. Thus, her priority is on other guys.

The real attraction is via face to face interactions and your performance. (C&F, Negs. Light and funny, kinos.) Most probably if she finds you interesting after a date. The next date will not be as flakey.

What I would suggest is not to rule her out. But find other new prospects while continuing to ask her out (but not like calling her everyday).

Get her out. not in a desperate state, but @ a light funny state.
 

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how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
 

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Don't get hung up on her.

It's her problem, move on. Forget about her. She probably won't come back. Probably the only way is time. Just don't try and win her back, and don't let it bother you.
 

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Why don't you just find a girl who won't flake on you instead of thinking about one who's done so numerous times?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BannedGod

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sexy_kuta said:
how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
three times

Lol most people say forget about her, but the ones that say don't do it yet have some good arguments :O
 
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