"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How should I react in such a case?

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I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
 
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flexion_ said:
Making this very complicated. She rejected you - don't take it personal. Your "revenge" is to just move on with your life. Getting sucked into drama does nothing positive for you.
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do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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do you mean I should forget her completly even if she comes back?
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I really doubt she'll come back. Even then, these AW flakey chicks have a tendency to ask you out, and then STILL not show up. They just want the ego boost. There's no real interest here.
 
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BannedGod said:
I tried to set a date a few times with a girl, and she always blew me off... So I decided that I'll start ignoring her, mostly making her work if she wants to talk with me or hang out with me (by that, I mean I won't make any effort in that happening).

However, if she comes back to me and ask to hang out, how should I act? blow her off a few times, or accept, and if she starts blowing me off again, then forget her complelty?
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If she really comes back, i suggest you don't blow her off.

At your current state, she's definitely not attracted to you yet and I mean Yet. Thus, her priority is on other guys.

The real attraction is via face to face interactions and your performance. (C&F, Negs. Light and funny, kinos.) Most probably if she finds you interesting after a date. The next date will not be as flakey.

What I would suggest is not to rule her out. But find other new prospects while continuing to ask her out (but not like calling her everyday).

Get her out. not in a desperate state, but @ a light funny state.
 
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how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
 
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Don't get hung up on her.

It's her problem, move on. Forget about her. She probably won't come back. Probably the only way is time. Just don't try and win her back, and don't let it bother you.
 
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Why don't you just find a girl who won't flake on you instead of thinking about one who's done so numerous times?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sexy_kuta said:
how many time did she blow u off? the amount of time she has blew u off with those stupid excuses will determine if she can stick around or not..
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three times

Lol most people say forget about her, but the ones that say don't do it yet have some good arguments :O
 
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