So I went to take my dog out for a walk, and there was a fine woman smoking a cig at her garden gate. She called me over and started asking about my dog, then introduced herself. Just made some small talk and she said she's seen me around the area a few times (I didn't even know she was my neighbor). I want to get to know her better, and i don't want to just randomly knock on her door. How should I go about it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How should I progress with her?
- Thread starter BluntMan
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
She asked about your dog and.... what? What happened? Did you get her number? Why not?
She asked about the dog, then started initiating with me, she introduced herself and called me babe. Just general questions. And the reason why i didn't try to get her number is cause my phone is broken atm. But she lives 4 doors away for me so it's easier. Also, she's like... 28, and i'm 20.
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
She called you babe then what did you do? Blush?... did you giggle?
You just got friendzoned.
You just got friendzoned.
Basically she introduced herself, i introduced myself, and she said 'nice to meet you babe' and then we hugged.
EDIT: I most definitely didn't get friendzoned. She stumbled her words when she said bye, and the 'zone' doesn't even exist.
EDIT: I most definitely didn't get friendzoned. She stumbled her words when she said bye, and the 'zone' doesn't even exist.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.