I've been going out with this one girl everything was going pretty good, she went out of town for a week with family. I picked her up from the airport everything was cool. Now I'm getting the "I'm really busy" treatment. What usually causes such an abrupt change, we usually see each other a few times a week but we haven't hung out for about 3 days and very little communication. She called me at around 11:00 last night, to say she was tired from work and going to bed. What should my actions be? Do I say anything about the sudden change?
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how should I move forward?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Take a look at some material here on the site (not forum posts, bible stuff. random forum posts can be pretty random). Then see if you can identify something you didn't do right. If you can't then move on and if this happens again with another girl, THEN maybe take a serious look at what you're doing wrong.
Don't get too hung up over it until then.
Don't get too hung up over it until then.
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Maybe she's just really busy right now and doesnt have time for you. It doesnt mean she doesnt like you, just that she's busy. Quit being so damn clingy.
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Unflushables could be right dude.
Its only when the "I'm so busy and tired treatment" keeps up that you know its bullsh!t and she's seeing someone else or considering cutting you loose.
Give her some time, give her a chance and maybe things will turn around.
The chronically busy and tired thing only can be kept up credibly by chicks who are doctors or nurses.
Its only when the "I'm so busy and tired treatment" keeps up that you know its bullsh!t and she's seeing someone else or considering cutting you loose.
Give her some time, give her a chance and maybe things will turn around.
The chronically busy and tired thing only can be kept up credibly by chicks who are doctors or nurses.
Well, I was right, I got my walking papers today. I think maybe an ex had something to do with it, she was in a relationship previously that didn't work out and I believe she was the "dumpee".
We talked about it and I just did everything I could to seem upbeat about it, I told her "I guess the timing wasn't right" I was hurt by it but looking that way will only make it worse, however she was looking at me like a I was a sad puppy. Hopefully I left with dignity.
Sucks though, she had alot of traits I really liked, plus to be upfront about her feelings instead of dragging it on and making me feel like sh*t for a few weeks she just came out with it.
I was about to write some "AFC" sh*t and say I hope she calls back but you know what? F*ck it! Back to the grind!
We talked about it and I just did everything I could to seem upbeat about it, I told her "I guess the timing wasn't right" I was hurt by it but looking that way will only make it worse, however she was looking at me like a I was a sad puppy. Hopefully I left with dignity.
Sucks though, she had alot of traits I really liked, plus to be upfront about her feelings instead of dragging it on and making me feel like sh*t for a few weeks she just came out with it.
I was about to write some "AFC" sh*t and say I hope she calls back but you know what? F*ck it! Back to the grind!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You played it beautifully movistar.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Thanks KontrollerX, thats just what I need to hear.
I only assume she went back to to X because it was so sudden, but I don't know for sure.
I only assume she went back to to X because it was so sudden, but I don't know for sure.
KontrollerX said:You played it beautifully movistar.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Keep moving your head, try some lateral movement, if he tries to run cut off the ring, keep your chin down, and when he throws that jab slip it and come in with a combination from the inside and that big overhand right of yours.
bah, don't ever take her back. Do a forum search for the "Anti-Dump's Machine" series by Pook, and you will understand everything.if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.