I've been going out with this one girl everything was going pretty good, she went out of town for a week with family. I picked her up from the airport everything was cool. Now I'm getting the "I'm really busy" treatment. What usually causes such an abrupt change, we usually see each other a few times a week but we haven't hung out for about 3 days and very little communication. She called me at around 11:00 last night, to say she was tired from work and going to bed. What should my actions be? Do I say anything about the sudden change?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
how should I move forward?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Take a look at some material here on the site (not forum posts, bible stuff. random forum posts can be pretty random). Then see if you can identify something you didn't do right. If you can't then move on and if this happens again with another girl, THEN maybe take a serious look at what you're doing wrong.
Don't get too hung up over it until then.
Don't get too hung up over it until then.
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Maybe she's just really busy right now and doesnt have time for you. It doesnt mean she doesnt like you, just that she's busy. Quit being so damn clingy.
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Unflushables could be right dude.
Its only when the "I'm so busy and tired treatment" keeps up that you know its bullsh!t and she's seeing someone else or considering cutting you loose.
Give her some time, give her a chance and maybe things will turn around.
The chronically busy and tired thing only can be kept up credibly by chicks who are doctors or nurses.
Its only when the "I'm so busy and tired treatment" keeps up that you know its bullsh!t and she's seeing someone else or considering cutting you loose.
Give her some time, give her a chance and maybe things will turn around.
The chronically busy and tired thing only can be kept up credibly by chicks who are doctors or nurses.
Well, I was right, I got my walking papers today. I think maybe an ex had something to do with it, she was in a relationship previously that didn't work out and I believe she was the "dumpee".
We talked about it and I just did everything I could to seem upbeat about it, I told her "I guess the timing wasn't right" I was hurt by it but looking that way will only make it worse, however she was looking at me like a I was a sad puppy. Hopefully I left with dignity.
Sucks though, she had alot of traits I really liked, plus to be upfront about her feelings instead of dragging it on and making me feel like sh*t for a few weeks she just came out with it.
I was about to write some "AFC" sh*t and say I hope she calls back but you know what? F*ck it! Back to the grind!
We talked about it and I just did everything I could to seem upbeat about it, I told her "I guess the timing wasn't right" I was hurt by it but looking that way will only make it worse, however she was looking at me like a I was a sad puppy. Hopefully I left with dignity.
Sucks though, she had alot of traits I really liked, plus to be upfront about her feelings instead of dragging it on and making me feel like sh*t for a few weeks she just came out with it.
I was about to write some "AFC" sh*t and say I hope she calls back but you know what? F*ck it! Back to the grind!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
KontrollerX
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You played it beautifully movistar.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Thanks KontrollerX, thats just what I need to hear.
I only assume she went back to to X because it was so sudden, but I don't know for sure.
I only assume she went back to to X because it was so sudden, but I don't know for sure.
KontrollerX said:You played it beautifully movistar.
Despite her looking at you like a sad puppy if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
Anyway she gets points for telling you all this to your face instead of being some coward about it but still she's pretty sleazy to of been going behind your back with this other guy be it an ex or not.
Good on ya though man for taking the attitude of getting back in the grind.
Thats the only way to do it.
Keep moving your head, try some lateral movement, if he tries to run cut off the ring, keep your chin down, and when he throws that jab slip it and come in with a combination from the inside and that big overhand right of yours.
bah, don't ever take her back. Do a forum search for the "Anti-Dump's Machine" series by Pook, and you will understand everything.if you did a good enough acting job of not looking like that sad puppy but someone who accepted things with a quiet understanding she may begin to wonder about why it was so easy for you to let go of her which could end her back up with you overtime.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.