Ive been gettin down with a girl I know for a few months almost daily but we dont call ourselves a couple ,and for fourth of july were prolly gonna be goin to this party at her ex's house......thing is this guy will never get over her and I know the party will be an awkward situation........ im not sure how i should go about it,should I just tell her how I feel or just not give a **** or take some other girls or whatever ...I just wanted to see how some "DJ"s would deal with this
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How should I handle this
- Thread starter rocksoff
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
I would love to give you the perfect execution on how to handle this and similar situations, but I can't. I can't bring myself to help somebody who uses the word "prolly".
I dont want advice from the "Gangster Of Love" anywaysGangster Of Love said:I would love to give you the perfect execution on how to handle this and similar situations, but I can't. I can't bring myself to help somebody who uses the word "prolly".
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Bet ya prolly dorocksoff said:I dont want advice from the "Gangster Of Love" anyways
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kevin Cass
Don Juan
go to the party and have fun, you've got nothing to lose
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
I don't understand the problem. Any drama would be between her and her ex, how are you involved? If she's cool with going there shouldn't be a reason why you shouldn't be cool as well. Everyone has history and towns are small so you're bound to run into exs sooner or later, the both of you. Realize if you've done your job and your girl is indeed your girl then the rest is petty. Have a good time at the party and don't let highschool drama get in the way.
lol...I dont want advice from the "Gangster Of Love" anyways
I think Kevin is probably right. If she wh*res around on you then you'll just know that she wasn't worthy of an LTR.