"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How should I handle these situations?

Eighth Passenger

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I hope these questions haven't been asked too much in the past. I know how "older" members can be a stickler about telling newbies to use the search function.

1. You are on the first date with a girl you just met. She may be under the impression that you'll pay her way. How would you let this girl know that she will be paying for the day's activities?

2. How would you handle a situation when a female says "I don't give my phone # to people I just met"?

3. Is it best to pretend you're in a rush while doing a cold approach? I'm thinking I should limit a cold approach conversation to 5 minutes. It seems best to start a cold approach by saying "I have somewhere to be very shortly but I would like to...". I used to do sales and I was always told to create a sense of urgency. Does this also work with picking up HBs?

Thanks for the replies.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I know someone must have recommendations for me.

I tried searching for my answers but many links "cannot be found" or "this topic has been deleted", etc. Can someone help me out with these situations please?
 
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1.) Did you ask her out on the date? If you did, just pay for it... it doesn't make you a loser or AFC to pay for something you invited her to. If you insist on making her pay, however, all I can say is that you should definitely use C&F. Nothing worse than giving a girl a cold stare and saying "what are you waiting for? Your half is 10 bucks."

2.) A grin and a confident "but we've known each other for at LEAST five minutes!"

3.) If things are really clicking, you don't have to leave after exactly five minutes. You still should bone out fairly early just to keep the mystery about you. Remember... you always should act as though you have something important to do! Even if it's just ordering a pizza and playing Halo... :D
 

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Originally posted by Six-String Samurai
1.) Did you ask her out on the date? If you did, just pay for it... it doesn't make you a loser or AFC to pay for something you invited her to. If you insist on making her pay, however, all I can say is that you should definitely use C&F. Nothing worse than giving a girl a cold stare and saying "what are you waiting for? Your half is 10 bucks."

2.) A grin and a confident "but we've known each other for at LEAST five minutes!"

3.) If things are really clicking, you don't have to leave after exactly five minutes. You still should bone out fairly early just to keep the mystery about you. Remember... you always should act as though you have something important to do! Even if it's just ordering a pizza and playing Halo... :D
Cool. Have you tried the #2 tip?
 

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Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
Cool. Have you tried the #2 tip?
Reading #2 Without even trying it I'd say it would get her to laugh and would get a # if she was actually interested. Seems like something I would say because I really am sarcastic and a smartass... lol... Better than being, "ughh... okay... Maybe i"ll see you around"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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