"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How should I handle these situations?

Eighth Passenger

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I hope these questions haven't been asked too much in the past. I know how "older" members can be a stickler about telling newbies to use the search function.

1. You are on the first date with a girl you just met. She may be under the impression that you'll pay her way. How would you let this girl know that she will be paying for the day's activities?

2. How would you handle a situation when a female says "I don't give my phone # to people I just met"?

3. Is it best to pretend you're in a rush while doing a cold approach? I'm thinking I should limit a cold approach conversation to 5 minutes. It seems best to start a cold approach by saying "I have somewhere to be very shortly but I would like to...". I used to do sales and I was always told to create a sense of urgency. Does this also work with picking up HBs?

Thanks for the replies.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I know someone must have recommendations for me.

I tried searching for my answers but many links "cannot be found" or "this topic has been deleted", etc. Can someone help me out with these situations please?
 
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1.) Did you ask her out on the date? If you did, just pay for it... it doesn't make you a loser or AFC to pay for something you invited her to. If you insist on making her pay, however, all I can say is that you should definitely use C&F. Nothing worse than giving a girl a cold stare and saying "what are you waiting for? Your half is 10 bucks."

2.) A grin and a confident "but we've known each other for at LEAST five minutes!"

3.) If things are really clicking, you don't have to leave after exactly five minutes. You still should bone out fairly early just to keep the mystery about you. Remember... you always should act as though you have something important to do! Even if it's just ordering a pizza and playing Halo... :D
 

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Originally posted by Six-String Samurai
1.) Did you ask her out on the date? If you did, just pay for it... it doesn't make you a loser or AFC to pay for something you invited her to. If you insist on making her pay, however, all I can say is that you should definitely use C&F. Nothing worse than giving a girl a cold stare and saying "what are you waiting for? Your half is 10 bucks."

2.) A grin and a confident "but we've known each other for at LEAST five minutes!"

3.) If things are really clicking, you don't have to leave after exactly five minutes. You still should bone out fairly early just to keep the mystery about you. Remember... you always should act as though you have something important to do! Even if it's just ordering a pizza and playing Halo... :D
Cool. Have you tried the #2 tip?
 

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Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
Cool. Have you tried the #2 tip?
Reading #2 Without even trying it I'd say it would get her to laugh and would get a # if she was actually interested. Seems like something I would say because I really am sarcastic and a smartass... lol... Better than being, "ughh... okay... Maybe i"ll see you around"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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