"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How should I go about this?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Yes, ask for her number towards the end of the evening to let her know that you dig her -- dig?
And yeah, as DJ Vitor stated, it may be a good idea to get vibes on how she is feeling you from your brother/brother's girlfriend beforehand.
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OK Kid, you're in! It is only procedural at this point - as long as you don't stammer in your speech like the cartoon character "porky pig" you'll do good!theguy351 said:
Don't IM her ever, unless she initiates!!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PRMoon
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GO OUT AND HAVE FUN! This is a simple task. The more you think about it the better your chances of f*ckin it up okay kid? Life doesn't always have or need a plan. Sometimes you just gotta take it as it comes and go with it....this is one of those times.theguy351 said:
Now go play.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Interceptor
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Although, you coudl offer to pay for half, or buy her a gift here and there, while she buys food and drinks. Or vice versa. Offer to take care of something, be it a gift, or tickets, or drinks, and let her know that she will paying for you two on other things. IN other words, share when "Meeting" up some place. Do not pay for everything on a "meeting" up, just don't.
If you ARE taking her "out", and you both have used the word "Date", then I would have to say that 99.9 % you are expected to pay. Realize that most women, even IF they are NOT Gold Diggers, will not think highly of a male whom asks them out but refuses to pay for the Date. It sucks, but it's reality. That's why a lot of guys refuse to go YE OLDE CLASSICAL DATE "DINNER AND A MOVIE" route. And probably just go to a zoo, coffee, or a park or something. Not a bad idea to consider, you know?
IF you go this route, you will be subliminally demonstrating that you believe you have enough value to just be yourself and STILL be interesting enough for her, and it costs you hardly anything.
It';s a WIN/WIN situation.
You know why?
Because if she's really into you, she'll go along and feel like you're a fun guy who likes to have fun anywhere.Remember, that inside each of us is a fun, spontaneous free spirit, whom doesn';t judge and wants to go out explore and have fun(for further proof, read The Book of Pook)
If she complains...........
You know who she is.
She's not into YOU. She's into what you can buy her. If she complains, she feels that you don't think she's "worth it." She'll also think you'e "cheap".
This is a woman you want to avoid.
Why?
She's doesn't want a healthy, dynamic, sexual realtionship based on true feelings of love and affection..
she wants an Entertainer! At your expense!!!
"What have you done for me lately?"
NEXT!!!!!!!
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I was in a same situation last year.But I lost the girl because I came as a needy guy and I tried to demonstrate that I am a nice guy(WUSSY).I used to ask my friend's girlfriend every day how she thinks about me.Just be yourself.believe me.BE YOURSELF.don't forget it.
act cool.confidence.bust her balls.use ****y funny.
Don't go for her or her friend(your bros girlfriend) approval.make her feel that you are valuable.
I am 17 too so I know how you feel now.be relax and wright what you do.
I don't want you to lose the girl like me.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Interceptor
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Then you are "supposed" to pay for her.
Interceptor
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Make sure you listen to her, and pay attention to her body language.
Good luck.
.........most important, she's there for you to have fun with, not to validate you.
Focus on having fun.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.