"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How should I go about this?
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- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Yes, ask for her number towards the end of the evening to let her know that you dig her -- dig?
And yeah, as DJ Vitor stated, it may be a good idea to get vibes on how she is feeling you from your brother/brother's girlfriend beforehand.
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OK Kid, you're in! It is only procedural at this point - as long as you don't stammer in your speech like the cartoon character "porky pig" you'll do good!theguy351 said:
Don't IM her ever, unless she initiates!!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PRMoon
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GO OUT AND HAVE FUN! This is a simple task. The more you think about it the better your chances of f*ckin it up okay kid? Life doesn't always have or need a plan. Sometimes you just gotta take it as it comes and go with it....this is one of those times.theguy351 said:
Now go play.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Although, you coudl offer to pay for half, or buy her a gift here and there, while she buys food and drinks. Or vice versa. Offer to take care of something, be it a gift, or tickets, or drinks, and let her know that she will paying for you two on other things. IN other words, share when "Meeting" up some place. Do not pay for everything on a "meeting" up, just don't.
If you ARE taking her "out", and you both have used the word "Date", then I would have to say that 99.9 % you are expected to pay. Realize that most women, even IF they are NOT Gold Diggers, will not think highly of a male whom asks them out but refuses to pay for the Date. It sucks, but it's reality. That's why a lot of guys refuse to go YE OLDE CLASSICAL DATE "DINNER AND A MOVIE" route. And probably just go to a zoo, coffee, or a park or something. Not a bad idea to consider, you know?
IF you go this route, you will be subliminally demonstrating that you believe you have enough value to just be yourself and STILL be interesting enough for her, and it costs you hardly anything.
It';s a WIN/WIN situation.
You know why?
Because if she's really into you, she'll go along and feel like you're a fun guy who likes to have fun anywhere.Remember, that inside each of us is a fun, spontaneous free spirit, whom doesn';t judge and wants to go out explore and have fun(for further proof, read The Book of Pook)
If she complains...........
You know who she is.
She's not into YOU. She's into what you can buy her. If she complains, she feels that you don't think she's "worth it." She'll also think you'e "cheap".
This is a woman you want to avoid.
Why?
She's doesn't want a healthy, dynamic, sexual realtionship based on true feelings of love and affection..
she wants an Entertainer! At your expense!!!
"What have you done for me lately?"
NEXT!!!!!!!
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I was in a same situation last year.But I lost the girl because I came as a needy guy and I tried to demonstrate that I am a nice guy(WUSSY).I used to ask my friend's girlfriend every day how she thinks about me.Just be yourself.believe me.BE YOURSELF.don't forget it.
act cool.confidence.bust her balls.use ****y funny.
Don't go for her or her friend(your bros girlfriend) approval.make her feel that you are valuable.
I am 17 too so I know how you feel now.be relax and wright what you do.
I don't want you to lose the girl like me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Then you are "supposed" to pay for her.
Interceptor
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Make sure you listen to her, and pay attention to her body language.
Good luck.
.........most important, she's there for you to have fun with, not to validate you.
Focus on having fun.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.