"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How should I go about this?
- Thread starter theguy351
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Yes, ask for her number towards the end of the evening to let her know that you dig her -- dig?
And yeah, as DJ Vitor stated, it may be a good idea to get vibes on how she is feeling you from your brother/brother's girlfriend beforehand.
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OK Kid, you're in! It is only procedural at this point - as long as you don't stammer in your speech like the cartoon character "porky pig" you'll do good!theguy351 said:
Don't IM her ever, unless she initiates!!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PRMoon
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GO OUT AND HAVE FUN! This is a simple task. The more you think about it the better your chances of f*ckin it up okay kid? Life doesn't always have or need a plan. Sometimes you just gotta take it as it comes and go with it....this is one of those times.theguy351 said:
Now go play.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Interceptor
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Although, you coudl offer to pay for half, or buy her a gift here and there, while she buys food and drinks. Or vice versa. Offer to take care of something, be it a gift, or tickets, or drinks, and let her know that she will paying for you two on other things. IN other words, share when "Meeting" up some place. Do not pay for everything on a "meeting" up, just don't.
If you ARE taking her "out", and you both have used the word "Date", then I would have to say that 99.9 % you are expected to pay. Realize that most women, even IF they are NOT Gold Diggers, will not think highly of a male whom asks them out but refuses to pay for the Date. It sucks, but it's reality. That's why a lot of guys refuse to go YE OLDE CLASSICAL DATE "DINNER AND A MOVIE" route. And probably just go to a zoo, coffee, or a park or something. Not a bad idea to consider, you know?
IF you go this route, you will be subliminally demonstrating that you believe you have enough value to just be yourself and STILL be interesting enough for her, and it costs you hardly anything.
It';s a WIN/WIN situation.
You know why?
Because if she's really into you, she'll go along and feel like you're a fun guy who likes to have fun anywhere.Remember, that inside each of us is a fun, spontaneous free spirit, whom doesn';t judge and wants to go out explore and have fun(for further proof, read The Book of Pook)
If she complains...........
You know who she is.
She's not into YOU. She's into what you can buy her. If she complains, she feels that you don't think she's "worth it." She'll also think you'e "cheap".
This is a woman you want to avoid.
Why?
She's doesn't want a healthy, dynamic, sexual realtionship based on true feelings of love and affection..
she wants an Entertainer! At your expense!!!
"What have you done for me lately?"
NEXT!!!!!!!
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I was in a same situation last year.But I lost the girl because I came as a needy guy and I tried to demonstrate that I am a nice guy(WUSSY).I used to ask my friend's girlfriend every day how she thinks about me.Just be yourself.believe me.BE YOURSELF.don't forget it.
act cool.confidence.bust her balls.use ****y funny.
Don't go for her or her friend(your bros girlfriend) approval.make her feel that you are valuable.
I am 17 too so I know how you feel now.be relax and wright what you do.
I don't want you to lose the girl like me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Interceptor
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Then you are "supposed" to pay for her.
Interceptor
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Make sure you listen to her, and pay attention to her body language.
Good luck.
.........most important, she's there for you to have fun with, not to validate you.
Focus on having fun.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.