"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How should I end it?

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I am 31 and already hung out with this 23 year old three times. I was not too attracted to her from the beginning, but she was decent and I figured maybe I could "hook up" with her.

The problem is, she lives at home and so do I. She is also not that type of girl (so it seems). This girl seems alot more into me than vice versa, which makes me uncomfortable (I would rather be the one getting dumped).

I am supposed to go to this bar with her tomorrow night and will probably still go.

Should I end it on myspace, in person (tomorrow night) ignore her calls, or end it on the phone?

I kind of feel ignoring her and the myspace thing is the cowards way out...but I have only been out with her a few times.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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stuka1939 said:
She is also not that type of girl (so it seems).
There's an easy out. Just start pushing her hard for more physical stuff. "Put out or I will have to move on." If she obliges, it's what you wanted anyways, right?
 

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Phyzzle said:
There's an easy out. Just start pushing her hard for more physical stuff. "Put out or I will have to move on." If she obliges, it's what you wanted anyways, right?
I couldn't do that, that is borderline coercion/sexual assault.
 

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What part of Jersey are you from?
 

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What part of Jersey are you from?

Central.

Too late, I told her on myspace It would be best to not see each other. I figure after only three dates, I don't OWE her a face to face talk or phonecall.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's too late to answer, but I bet if you acted AFC she'd have ended it by the 4th date :)
 
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