"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How should i close this girl?

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Ok, there is this chick i see every now and then when i'm at a bar. While there we talk and have fun. I only see her like once in a month or so, but it's always good. Good vibes, I make her smile, I kino her a lot and she responds positively to that. I have the feeling i have got to make a move the next time i see her or else it'll be just too long.

Now, like i said, it's in a bar area. So she's with friends. I don't have a problem kissing a girl in front of my friends, but girls usually do. I've been thinking of ways to get her somewhere a little more private and away from her friends. Are there some handy tactics to do that?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You first want to show her friends some attention here. Her friends are going to be the determining factor if you will spend "alone time" with her. You can play this nice by doing some LOI's and talking to her friends more when you see her. If you continue to do this, she will be coming for you. If you have the friends approval, they will also be cool with you spending "private" time with her.
 

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"LOI"?

That's a good tip. I think her friends will be ok with it already though. I don't know how i should put it into words to get her alone. That's my problem. "hey i gotta show you something" might create the wrong expectations.

I read about a little tactic where you say "i gotta tell you a secret". And pretend you gonna wisper in her ear but you kiss her on the cheek in front of her ear. Sounds like a good tactic and i'm gonna definitely try it. But first i need a way to get her alone :)
 

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How about, "Write (type up) your number. Looks like you are a fun person, we need to get together soon."?
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
How about, "Write (type up) your number. Looks like you are a fun person, we need to get together soon."?
You must be a rocket scientist. That was genius, you should patent it.

ps snow, for as long as you been here, your asking rookie questions.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MacAvoy said:
You must be a rocket scientist. That was genius, you should patent it.

ps snow, for as long as you been here, your asking rookie questions.
and you must be a republican. :moon:

Your response to snow proves just why I responded to him like I did. You wouldn't understand. Stick to finding ways to spend Paul McCartney's money. Better yet, spend more time researching and learning how boys "Learn To Masterbate".
 

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ISO her away from her friends?
 

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Yea? How? Come on dudes, give me something useful.
Grab her by the f.ucking hand and take her away from her friends.

Close.

Foreplay.

Bang.

FR.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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