"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how react to this situation with her?

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met this girl we got it off got along great by the 3rd date we smashed amazing sex.... afterwords we were supposed to go on a date on a Monday I worked late so couldn't make it. then same thing happened Tuesday and Wednesday. then untold her the movie I asked her to see with me that I had already saw it sunday. she got annoyed ofcourse and we never met last week. ever since contact has been very short with her etc. how should i go about this situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You messed up when you cancelled without a definite counter offer. You have to always close the deal immediately. Since you didn't do that, she doesn't take you seriously anymore (mainly because she doesn't believe you are serious about her).

I would try to make a definite date one more time with her. If she doesn't accept, delete her number. But this is 100% your mistake.
 

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i have another date with her tue. it is 100% my fault
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You messed up when you cancelled without a definite counter offer. You have to always close the deal immediately. Since you didn't do that, she doesn't take you seriously anymore (mainly because she doesn't believe you are serious about her).
It's his job to make her believe that he is serious?

Heck I really really liked this one girl and spent tens of thousands of dollars on her and a lot of time and energy. I didn't want to have sex with anyone else and don't think I could have been more serious about her. I asked her to marry me and she told me go to hell.

So I don't think girls care about "seriousness." They care about "usefulness." o_O
 

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It's his job to make her believe that he is serious?

Heck I really really liked this one girl and spent tens of thousands of dollars on her and a lot of time and energy. I didn't want to have sex with anyone else and don't think I could have been more serious about her. I asked her to marry me and she told me go to hell.

So I don't think girls care about "seriousness." They care about "usefulness." o_O
Fair. Poor choice of words, but you get the general point. If a woman thinks you become a poor use of time, you're out. Whatever you want to call that is up to you.
 

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met this girl we got it off got along great by the 3rd date we smashed amazing sex.... afterwords we were supposed to go on a date on a Monday I worked late so couldn't make it. then same thing happened Tuesday and Wednesday. then untold her the movie I asked her to see with me that I had already saw it sunday. she got annoyed ofcourse and we never met last week. ever since contact has been very short with her etc. how should i go about this situation?
She thinks you just used her for sex and are playing games now. Call her on the phone and talk to her.
 
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