That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
the first time i told my girlfriend i loved her was after 4 or 5 months, but since then i've been saying it several times a day and it hasn't affected our reputation at all. actually, i think we wouldn't even be together any more if i didn't use to say it constantly.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use it rarely........Last year when I was an AFC, I had a girlfriend which I told her I loved her 1 month into the relationship and I told her like every day...she eventually didnt even say it back....and she then dumped me. LOL....boy those afc days were funny. AnywayZ I would say it only when she does something SPECTACULAR.....maybe 1 or 2 or if you really have to 3 times a month. Trust Me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why would you want to be a porn star if you're in love with her?Originally posted by Jay-X
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myself
Originally posted by steroidsrule
i thought bluelemond was a girl... btw love isnt true just use it if you think it can get in her pants.. .. end of discussion
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.