Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
the first time i told my girlfriend i loved her was after 4 or 5 months, but since then i've been saying it several times a day and it hasn't affected our reputation at all. actually, i think we wouldn't even be together any more if i didn't use to say it constantly.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use it rarely........Last year when I was an AFC, I had a girlfriend which I told her I loved her 1 month into the relationship and I told her like every day...she eventually didnt even say it back....and she then dumped me. LOL....boy those afc days were funny. AnywayZ I would say it only when she does something SPECTACULAR.....maybe 1 or 2 or if you really have to 3 times a month. Trust Me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why would you want to be a porn star if you're in love with her?Originally posted by Jay-X
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myself
Originally posted by steroidsrule
i thought bluelemond was a girl... btw love isnt true just use it if you think it can get in her pants.. .. end of discussion
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.