You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
the first time i told my girlfriend i loved her was after 4 or 5 months, but since then i've been saying it several times a day and it hasn't affected our reputation at all. actually, i think we wouldn't even be together any more if i didn't use to say it constantly.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use it rarely........Last year when I was an AFC, I had a girlfriend which I told her I loved her 1 month into the relationship and I told her like every day...she eventually didnt even say it back....and she then dumped me. LOL....boy those afc days were funny. AnywayZ I would say it only when she does something SPECTACULAR.....maybe 1 or 2 or if you really have to 3 times a month. Trust Me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myselfOriginally posted by bluelemond
Ok kids...You probably don't know what love is so DON'T say "I love you". You don't know what it is, therefore you can't mean it. I'm sure you've been with this girl for less than 6 months. How can you possibly fall in love with someone so FAST? It took me about 7-8 months to tell my gf that I loved her, and the thing is that I wasn't even sure if I meant it. There is NO WAY you know what love is so STOP posting about "I love you" crap.
The answer to your question: Saying "I love you" is JUST like saying a compliment. The more you use it the less VALUE it has for the next time...think about it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why would you want to be a porn star if you're in love with her?Originally posted by Jay-X
if you say "i love you" as a compliment, just to have something back, it's not worth saying it... it would be enough to say something plain like "you are beautiful today"... i say it because I THINK i'm in love with my girlfriend so i don't see any point in holding that into myself
Originally posted by steroidsrule
i thought bluelemond was a girl... btw love isnt true just use it if you think it can get in her pants.. .. end of discussion
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.