I recently started talking to a girl and I already know shes into me. She keeps saying how shes gonna be visiting me (I live in the city, she lives in the suburbs) and how she wants to hang out next week when she gets back from her trip. I've made the mistake in the past of texting/calling too often to the point of their level of attraction decreasing. How often do you guys communicate with girls that you're talking to?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How often should I text/call her?
- Thread starter duke104
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ideally you'll have a meaningful text conversation once or twice per day - concentrated into say 30 minutes - and then leave them wanting more. You should be the one to not reply to her last message. Then wait until the next day and let her contact you first. Never text unless it's something romantic or funny. Never "double text" or whine that they did not reply. If they freak out that you haven't replied - it's a good thing. Let them experience that tension. Occasionally take a day off and let them wonder. Also - call them on the phone (hopefully land line) when it's time to make plans. Finally, mix in some email and FB to keep it entertaining. But don't be their FB friend IMO.