I recently started talking to a girl and I already know shes into me. She keeps saying how shes gonna be visiting me (I live in the city, she lives in the suburbs) and how she wants to hang out next week when she gets back from her trip. I've made the mistake in the past of texting/calling too often to the point of their level of attraction decreasing. How often do you guys communicate with girls that you're talking to?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How often should I text/call her?
- Thread starter duke104
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ideally you'll have a meaningful text conversation once or twice per day - concentrated into say 30 minutes - and then leave them wanting more. You should be the one to not reply to her last message. Then wait until the next day and let her contact you first. Never text unless it's something romantic or funny. Never "double text" or whine that they did not reply. If they freak out that you haven't replied - it's a good thing. Let them experience that tension. Occasionally take a day off and let them wonder. Also - call them on the phone (hopefully land line) when it's time to make plans. Finally, mix in some email and FB to keep it entertaining. But don't be their FB friend IMO.