I recently started talking to a girl and I already know shes into me. She keeps saying how shes gonna be visiting me (I live in the city, she lives in the suburbs) and how she wants to hang out next week when she gets back from her trip. I've made the mistake in the past of texting/calling too often to the point of their level of attraction decreasing. How often do you guys communicate with girls that you're talking to?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How often should I text/call her?
- Thread starter duke104
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ideally you'll have a meaningful text conversation once or twice per day - concentrated into say 30 minutes - and then leave them wanting more. You should be the one to not reply to her last message. Then wait until the next day and let her contact you first. Never text unless it's something romantic or funny. Never "double text" or whine that they did not reply. If they freak out that you haven't replied - it's a good thing. Let them experience that tension. Occasionally take a day off and let them wonder. Also - call them on the phone (hopefully land line) when it's time to make plans. Finally, mix in some email and FB to keep it entertaining. But don't be their FB friend IMO.