"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How often do you make plans with a girl

BJP1991

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Seen this girl twice now - seems to be flowing pretty well. We got drinks the first date and did the same on the second, but ended up back at my place and hooked up.

In the first month or so, how often do you call/text a girl to see her? She said she prefers calling, and said she liked that I called instead of texted her to setup our second date.

Once a week until she starts reaching out in between? Pros/cons?

Thanks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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oldmanofthesea

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I usually aim for once a week, and only to set a date.

Be careful with her telling you to call instead of texting. I'd mix it up a bit.
 

Rainman4707

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Depends on the girl. My current plate i see once a week for sex.
If i thought it could go somewhere with a girl then i might increase the amount of time i see her and the effort i put in.
 
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