You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Practically never. The first meeting either happens at my place or we just go have a walk. Sometimes, I go by myself to have a tea at a place I like and I invite her out for tea. But I would go there anyways even alone so she just tags along.
In the 10+ years I've been dating women, I have never gone out for drinks. When I do buy beer or wine, I make sure to serve it at my place, where logistics are in my favor ; ]
this ........or out then "back to yours for drinks".................sex on the first date so she becomes emotionally attached to ya