"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how often do you call a gf?

rocco

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this is sort of a relationship question..

how often should a guy call a gf? I mostly call people when I want to hangout, but my gf likes to talk on the phone a lot. how often should i call?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Girls are different; and a g/f in particular may be glued to the phone (if you two live farther than a few minutes drive away). She may want to talk on the phone every day just to hear about how your day went, and talk about her issues, thoughts, feelings.

If you want the relationship, you're going to have to get used to talking on the phone- make it fun, if you're doing it right (and have an interesting girl), time spent talking on the phone will seem like nothing.
 

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I talk to my girl every day. Sometimes I call, sometimes she calls

why does it matter?
 

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i dunno, maybe im still getting used to the whole new relationship thing.. ive improved on attracting more women, getting laid more often these days.. all that pua stuff.. but after that.. it seems like the pua community dont cover that as much ..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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whats your definition of a relationship?

is it a girl you're exclusive with, a girl you're seeing, an f-buddy?
 

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I talk to my gilfriend over AIM almost every day. It's nice because you can do other things on the computer while you talk, and a 10 minute phone conversation can stretch out to about 40 minutes over the internet. A lot easier to keep things fun and interesting that way.

As far as phone calls go, I generally don't call except for really important stuff or when I'm completely wasted... I'm almost guaranteed to give her a drunk dial right before I pass out.
 

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ready123 said:
whats your definition of a relationship?

is it a girl you're exclusive with, a girl you're seeing, an f-buddy?
with her its semi-exclusive.. like that's where the direction is headed, although i think we both have been seeing other people, atleast I know I have been.
 

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DoctorLW said:
I talk to my gilfriend over AIM almost every day. It's nice because you can do other things on the computer while you talk, and a 10 minute phone conversation can stretch out to about 40 minutes over the internet. A lot easier to keep things fun and interesting that way.

As far as phone calls go, I generally don't call except for really important stuff or when I'm completely wasted... I'm almost guaranteed to give her a drunk dial right before I pass out.
that sounds cool thing you got going there
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I generally tend to call every 3 days or so. If they complain a little, good. That just means they want you. If they complain a lot, call a little more. Not too much or you are too easy to attain. When the relationship escalates to something exclusive, move to calling her a little more frequently, but no more than she calls you.
 

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rocco said:
with her its semi-exclusive.. like that's where the direction is headed, although i think we both have been seeing other people, atleast I know I have been.
I hope you haven't got thinking onto the LTR track just yet. If she is still seeing other people, you're in a bad zone. Unless she has popped the question to you and you shot her down, she's not interested enough to date you if she can't dedicate herself to just you. Once she starts doing this, then consider a relationship. I don't care if you're hooking up with other women too.. if she really does like you she will either pop the question or stop hooking up with others.

As for phone calls to the GF? Some guys on the board will tell you 4 - 5 times a week MAX. I somewhat disagree.. I've talked to my girlfriends everyday. What's more important than amount of calls is who makes the call and what the conversation consists off. Make sure phone calls don't get boring.. keep them fresh and new if you're going to be talking everyday. Let her call you more than you call her. As a man, I don't require to hear my woman's voice everyday, but she may require to hear yours. Let her request it from you.
 

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Don't talk on the phone for a long time and all the time. It gets old and boring. She should be the one calling you most the time. That shows her interest level in her. My girlfriend calls or sends a text msg to me everyday I don't have to call her.
 

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rocco said:
this is sort of a relationship question..

how often should a guy call a gf? I mostly call people when I want to hangout, but my gf likes to talk on the phone a lot. how often should i call?
let her call you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I dont call mine unless im coming to pick her up or something. Never called her before just to chat.

But then again I usually get a chance to see her at school every day.
 
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