"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How Often Do Women Approach You?

bigneil

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guru1000 said:
Here are my stats at getting approached, if I am in a lounge area wearing a tight-fitted button-down shirt with a muscular physique, at 6'1":

  • 20% bf, 215 lbs.: Not at all
  • 15% bf, 202-5 lbs.: Once every 2 or 3 times I go out.
  • 10%, 192 lbs.: 2-3 times every time I go out.

Material difference in accordance with body fat level.
Sad but true as we head out of winter and I'm sitting at 21%.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm pretty lucky, I suppose. Women approach me all the time, especially when I go to bars. I didn't have to lift a finger or buy a single drink last Friday night yet I still went home with a woman.

I say lucky because I'm not especially good looking. I'm only 5'8" and I'm going to be 50 years old in a few months. It's not all luck, though.

What DOES work for me? Being in good shape and dressing well. It's THAT simple. I have also learned to keep my mouth shut. Texting and talking too much just gets me in trouble.
 

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I was with some acquaintances in some lower end bar. There was a bottle of champagne on the table. A group of 3 set of girls came over straight away because they wanted to drink champagne. The guys lapped up their attention. The women were there for half an hour until the alcohol was gone. I did not interject since I did not pay for the drink and I only knew the guys loosely. Except with a shake of the head to myself.
 

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teebear said:
I'm pretty lucky, I suppose. Women approach me all the time, especially when I go to bars. I didn't have to lift a finger or buy a single drink last Friday night yet I still went home with a woman.

I say lucky because I'm not especially good looking. I'm only 5'8" and I'm going to be 50 years old in a few months. It's not all luck, though.

What DOES work for me? Being in good shape and dressing well. It's THAT simple. I have also learned to keep my mouth shut. Texting and talking too much just gets me in trouble.
How old are these women who approach you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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teebear

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mangotot said:
How old are these women who approach you?
In bars, the women are typically in their 30's and 40's. The woman who came home with me last week was 34, she said.

I love it when women approach in those situations because it's virtually assured that they're DTF. I just keep my mouth shut and go with it.

I stack the odds in my favour, naturally. I don't go to clubs which are dominated by young and gorgeous twenty-somethings. I would just look old and out of place there.

I also dress sharp when I go out, aiming to be one of the top guys in the place in that regard. That makes being 5'8" less of a handicap and it tilts the field in my favour. Women absolutely notice and will blatantly check you out when you're dressed well.
 
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I'm curious as to what you guys think when a girl accidently "bumps" you on a crowded train, says "sorry" when grabbing her seatbelt on the plane next to you. Plausible deniability or clumsiness?
 
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