How Often Do Girls Approach You?

[kody_starr]

OK, this is a slightly different question. How often do girls actually walk up to you, and either touch you or start a conversation with you? Or, walk up to you with talking or touching you, but make it clear that she absolutely wants you to talk to her? This is different from an IOI in that she has taken the initiative to open you instead.

 

[Lexington]

It's actually not an all that uncommon for me. Believe me, I was such a massive AFC that the only way I could ever get with girls was with them approaching me. Sometimes, they threw me every cue and every IOI in the book and I was still afraid to approach! There was one girl that was interested in me in high school and her friends had to basically force me to ask her out.

By the way, I'm not a particularly good looking guy. I'm short, with a decent face and decent dress sense.

Nowadays, if a girl initiates with me I read that as strong interest and I get after her. In fact, regardless of whether I get IOIs or not, I just keep trying to escalate and "make the ho say no."

So definitely if a girl approaches you.....get after her. She's made your job that much easier, take advantage of it. I sometimes want to kick myself when I think back to my AFC days and all the girls that approached me. I was such a chickensh*t that I blew all those chances.

 

[King Turi]

I still get chicks coming up to me all the time as opposed to me going after them, been this way my whole life, which is in a sense why I'm here.

Because I need to be able to get what I want, not just take what's given to me, and well I basically do that already, all it took was a little reading of some IOI's and a bit of ego boosting and now I'm basically where I wanted to be.

But yeah, chicks still come up to me all the time, but thing is I got something they can come and comment on as an ice breaker, I can sing, so when they here me sing whether it's at like karaoke or a acoustic night or a jam night or whatever, they are able to come and start a conversation by saying I have a great voice.

I'd look like a **** if I went over to some chicks and "I got a great voice, don't I?".
Well actually I've done that before and it worked out decently, but I'd had a couple of drinks by that time, and that was the only time I've ever gone out and drunk alcohol, usually a non-drinker.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

Girls approach me a couple of times when i am in very high state... but very rarely do they make the first move on myspace.

 

[Splendidostring]

Same, never.

 

[MisterMcGee]

I get looked at, checked out, etc. Sometimes approached but I'm usually too busy or preoccupied to either follow up or realize the IOI in the first place.
I chalk it up as a confidence booster on my part. It's good to feel attractive and such, even if you dont close on the ones thatre checking you out.

 

[Sir_Turtle]

It happens, I usually do everything i can to encourage it. It's mostly passive game. Simply being friendly and available so that they let you know by IOI's when they're ready for you to approach.

This works especially well when "gaming," although i hate to call it that, girls of the religious variety. Since they generally like to be in a state of worship for you before they deem you worthy of approaching them.

 

[countermart]

To answer your other question...I get lots of IOIs, but as to girls approaching and actually starting a conversation from scratch without first meeting almost never.

Good looking girls coming up and standing very close to me in a book store, waiting to cross the street, or shopping very often.

Girls that “accidentally” brush their breasts against my arm as they walk past in a crowded pub or nightclub, very common. The “stand next to girls” are usually very good looking, the breast girls in crowded pubs not so, but hey they still make me smile.

Countermart

 

[seagull]

Rarely. It hasn't happened to me for a long time. The few times it did happen, I was always too stupid to take advantage.

 

[Obameros]

I get signals all the time, but rarely does a chick just come up to me randomly looking to score. I've noticed that they'll do anything they can BUT make the initial move.

 

[ALPHAROMEO]

Master Of The Universe

they are programmed not to it s deep seated in their psyche

i woudn t want to be picked up by a chick

i like chasing or hunting and bring my trophy home like a cat a fieldmouse

the chase is 80 PER CENT of the fun call it machism if you want



fun in negging her in using C/F stuff fun in getting her digits

PICKING UP CHICKS is the last frontier!!!
once u ve achieved that you are the master of your life and the universe:crackup: !!!!!!

 

[cola]

Once in a blue moon but it does happen.. when it does its usually a coworker or a female from my social circle. I have however had females tell me they find my looks attractive..

 

[Darth]

It's happened before. Usually it is just major hints, like coming up and asking me an innocent question in a too-friendly way.

 

[GlennCoCo]

I get checked out and stared at, almost never am I approached though.

 

[speakeasy]

Rarely. It hasn't happened to me for a long time. The few times it did happen, I was always too stupid to take advantage.

Same here. It happened in high school and junior high but I was too shy and incompetent at the time to take advantage of it. Now at age 33, it virtually never happens, even though I've been told I'm a nice looking guy, decent sense of style, in decent shape and all that stuff.