"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How Often Are You Approached?

How Often Do Women Approach You?

  • Never been approached by a woman

    Votes: 6 14.3%
  • Once or twice total so far

    Votes: 3 7.1%
  • Once or twice a year

    Votes: 13 31.0%
  • Once or twice a month

    Votes: 12 28.6%
  • Nearly every night I go out

    Votes: 5 11.9%
  • Several times a night

    Votes: 3 7.1%

  • Total voters
    42

-Gripz-

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Women will try and talk to me or hit on my more than usual. I'll be going to the store, or getting something to eat and the lady cashier would compliment me on my looks. I had one women who would ask for my phone number every day when I came in for lunch she also would call me her man and would literally push the other workers out of the way to make my food, lol. I've also gotten approaches when I'm sitting and doing nothing. A lady would sit down and talk to me, you could say they were being friendly but it happens a lot. Most of the time I get staring. At college a couple girls would cross my path a few times to get a good look at me while was chilling at the lounge. Also when I'm at the gym I'll get women following me around, they would workout next to me and stare. The strange thing is, I really don't think I'm anything special in the looks department.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Plutoman

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Two to three times a month. Occasionally more. Generally the girls that do are far below my standards, I don't think I've ever been just approached by anyone higher than a 5.
 

VladPatton

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Never, unless they are selling something, taking a survey, or want something else. Even if that wasn't the case, I'd be suspicious of a girl approaching. That's guy territory.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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I get approached, but not by women I'm interested in. Almost all of them are grenades or high school aged jail bait. I'm very young looking for my age. Even though I'm 32 I could easily pass for 25 which I believe is why high school girls hit on me. They want an older guy with a car and his own place, but I'm not interested. I'm above average in looks, but not a hot guy by any stretch. Most women would probably rate me a 6.5/7 out of 10.
 

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I've gotten approached by several HB 10.5's in my life...with the police in tow pointing and saying: That's the freak right there!

Be careful of chicks approaching (even the hawt ones)....with the cops, bouncers or campus security. It's not a good look on your part no matter how you try to spin it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PappyS

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Women rarely approach men. Good looking young men are more likely to be approached by homosexuals and transvestites than by real women.
 

Hustlaz Ambition

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SgtSplacker said:
This poll is flawed, because if a guy like me goes to China or Africa I will get approached every 15 minutes...
Very flawed poll indeed. A good looking black man is going to get literally ****ing stalked in area with a lot of black women. You are the HB 10 with big tits and ass in those places. You will be trying to find ways to subtly tell them hoes "do not approach me" my Guess and Ed Hardy outfits are my b!tchshields lol. But ratchet, loud women are not my thing. Every now and then though there will be one hottie in those sea of hoodrats :up: This is completely different from the white guy living in a rural setting. I imagine he may not rarely if ever get approached.

Quality of women should have been included in this poll.
 

Huffman

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Hehe but what does the poll represent? I guess on this forum there's some really cool dudes, together with alot of nerdy losers who are only just starting out.

Now I don't know if that classifies "the majority of guys" in your bet ;)
 

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Packers2010 said:
i never get approached. and i think it has to do with my posture and look when out ( body language).

i'm working on it.
Always stand tall, shoulders back, legs apart, smile, chat - open body language is inviting, happy faces are inviting, chatty people= good to talk to:up:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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