"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How not to come off as arrogant

Darth

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I have a question for you guys before I head off for college.

I have a problem. Talking to girls, they will be initially very friendly, but whenever I crack a joke, or acknowledge a compliment (which is a lot), they sometimes turn very cold and distanced. Almost as if they thought I was arrogant/full of myself. They can even become hostile by the end (even if I'm not coming onto them at all).

Now, I'm not a complete wise guy, not at all, but I wonder how can I make myself more likable/less intimidating in conversation. It's becoming a real problem. I'm trying to be as friendly as I can, but I think this is my natural tendency.

I am good-looking if that matters.

Anyway, has anyone else had this problem? Could it be that these types of girls are attracted to me, but just don't want to admit it?
There are some guys that just "connect" with everyone. They have charisma, etc. I'm not one of them.

Thnks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Most girls may be intimidated, scared. Just keep working them, dont give up too easily. Humor and charm usually breaks down there defenses. Once you enter there mind/spirit your in command, theres no stopping u.
 

Darth

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Thanks for the comment.

Also, I forgot to mention, this doesn't happen with women about 25 and up.

But it's the ones my age I'm talking about. If I don't come off well to my own generation that could be a problem.
 
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