"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How not to be so emotionally invested in a relationship?

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JohnnyStrabler

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Let's face it, relationships nowadays, they are all temporary. Even marriages end in a whim.

In my case in this relationship, I am becoming really emotionally invested in this girl......like really, really, really, really hard and fast! We are only exclusive for a short period of time now. I dont know what to do!

I dont like spinning plates, dont get me wrong I love to do that if I was not in a committed relationship, however I have some bad experiences with going out with girls while having a GF (sh!t gets ugly...real ugly) plus to me, its kinda messed up.

tl;dr how to stop falling in love with this girl!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Alex DeLarge

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I know what you mean man.. I kept seeing other girls even though I was exclusive with a girl before, it didn't end too nicely lol. It is kinda sh1tty to do too, as you wouldn't want her to do that behind your back.

What I suggest is, hangout with friends. Invest time in certain projects or hobbies of yours. (For example, I play guitar and focus a lot of my time on songwriting. I also like to hike and rockclimb, so I do that whenever possible as well.)

Having hobbies that you are passionate about become a sort of meditation or relaxation for your mind. It takes things like girlfriend issues, money issues, family issues and things like that away for a bit.. So when you have to go back to them, you are clear headed.

Hope this helped!
 
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Set a rule for yourself - only see her once a week.

Trust me, its harder than it sounds if you are invested. When she wants more you have to say NO and have an excuse. But I think that this is a good way to keep yourself in check. I should have done this recently, but I didnt listen to the voice in my head and in the end she lost interest (because I wasn't in control - I was way too invested.)

Dont let this happen to you!
 
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Try the "F*ck off" test. At the first sign of BS, text her the words "F*ck off." Be prepared never to contact her again unless she responds.

If she is interested she will respond, trust me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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