"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How not to be so emotionally invested in a relationship?

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JohnnyStrabler

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Let's face it, relationships nowadays, they are all temporary. Even marriages end in a whim.

In my case in this relationship, I am becoming really emotionally invested in this girl......like really, really, really, really hard and fast! We are only exclusive for a short period of time now. I dont know what to do!

I dont like spinning plates, dont get me wrong I love to do that if I was not in a committed relationship, however I have some bad experiences with going out with girls while having a GF (sh!t gets ugly...real ugly) plus to me, its kinda messed up.

tl;dr how to stop falling in love with this girl!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alex DeLarge

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I know what you mean man.. I kept seeing other girls even though I was exclusive with a girl before, it didn't end too nicely lol. It is kinda sh1tty to do too, as you wouldn't want her to do that behind your back.

What I suggest is, hangout with friends. Invest time in certain projects or hobbies of yours. (For example, I play guitar and focus a lot of my time on songwriting. I also like to hike and rockclimb, so I do that whenever possible as well.)

Having hobbies that you are passionate about become a sort of meditation or relaxation for your mind. It takes things like girlfriend issues, money issues, family issues and things like that away for a bit.. So when you have to go back to them, you are clear headed.

Hope this helped!
 
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Set a rule for yourself - only see her once a week.

Trust me, its harder than it sounds if you are invested. When she wants more you have to say NO and have an excuse. But I think that this is a good way to keep yourself in check. I should have done this recently, but I didnt listen to the voice in my head and in the end she lost interest (because I wasn't in control - I was way too invested.)

Dont let this happen to you!
 
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Try the "F*ck off" test. At the first sign of BS, text her the words "F*ck off." Be prepared never to contact her again unless she responds.

If she is interested she will respond, trust me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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