How not to be so emotionally invested in a relationship?

[JohnnyStrabler]

Let's face it, relationships nowadays, they are all temporary. Even marriages end in a whim.

In my case in this relationship, I am becoming really emotionally invested in this girl......like really, really, really, really hard and fast! We are only exclusive for a short period of time now. I dont know what to do!

I dont like spinning plates, dont get me wrong I love to do that if I was not in a committed relationship, however I have some bad experiences with going out with girls while having a GF (sh!t gets ugly...real ugly) plus to me, its kinda messed up.

tl;dr how to stop falling in love with this girl!

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I know what you mean man.. I kept seeing other girls even though I was exclusive with a girl before, it didn't end too nicely lol. It is kinda sh1tty to do too, as you wouldn't want her to do that behind your back.

What I suggest is, hangout with friends. Invest time in certain projects or hobbies of yours. (For example, I play guitar and focus a lot of my time on songwriting. I also like to hike and rockclimb, so I do that whenever possible as well.)

Having hobbies that you are passionate about become a sort of meditation or relaxation for your mind. It takes things like girlfriend issues, money issues, family issues and things like that away for a bit.. So when you have to go back to them, you are clear headed.

Hope this helped!

 

[IamJosan]

Live your own life!

 

[Serg897]

Set a rule for yourself - only see her once a week.

Trust me, its harder than it sounds if you are invested. When she wants more you have to say NO and have an excuse. But I think that this is a good way to keep yourself in check. I should have done this recently, but I didnt listen to the voice in my head and in the end she lost interest (because I wasn't in control - I was way too invested.)

Dont let this happen to you!

 

[bigneil]

Try the "F*ck off" test. At the first sign of BS, text her the words "F*ck off." Be prepared never to contact her again unless she responds.

If she is interested she will respond, trust me.