"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How much emphasis should be placed on looks?

Double J

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I've been with girls who, for one reason or another, have not been right for me (either not at my level intellectually, rude or too flirtatious, etc.) but I've stuck by because I felt such a strong physical attraction.

My question is - How much weight should be placed on looks? If you meet a girl whose personality you love, but whose looks do not tickle your fancy, should you still give it a try?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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followup

This is a followup on the thread I started. In the summer, I met this hot blonde from the internet at the mall. She seemed very shy and flustered because she hadn't met someone this way before, and she claimed she always gets shy when she meets someone new. I was really taken by her looks - she was perfect. Face, body, everything. The problem is that the way she acted turned me off a little- if she was shy, she was shy to the point of being rude and ultra nervous. At the time she had said she was interested in some guy at school - turns out that guy had a g/f already.

Should I pursue this girl? Physically, she's someone I'd probably go after in person even if I hadn't met her online first. But personality-wise, she's been a little weird. She's agreed to hanging out again but she keeps acting shy and a little evasive.

Tips?
 

strong like bull

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My question is - How much weight should be placed on looks? If you meet a girl whose personality you love, but whose looks do not tickle your fancy, should you still give it a try?

i would. actually, i am right now. ive been playing around with a girl who isnt an 8 or 10 or whatever, but has an awesome personality. she buys me things, cooks for me, and just treats me like a king. shes very compassionate, caring and is in touch with her feminine side. that is something i dont see often and i appreciate it.

i made a post asking a similar question a while back. one of the (imo) best responses was:

"Dont jack off for a week go to this b!tches appartment if the goods look good then you do what you want remember you dont have to have intercourse theres nothing wrong with a good groap and a suck."

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28109&highlight=settle

as far as the girl you met from the net, id stick to the basics. be your natural, charming and confident self. let the interaction unfold as it may. if you can let her interest rise, so be it. if she doesnt get hot and flakes, no big deal.

-SLB
 

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This is something you really need to just figure out for yourself. I personally think that a great personality can make up for so-so looks, but only to a certain extent. At some point, you're just better off being friends.
 
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