"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How much emphasis should be placed on looks?

Double J

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I've been with girls who, for one reason or another, have not been right for me (either not at my level intellectually, rude or too flirtatious, etc.) but I've stuck by because I felt such a strong physical attraction.

My question is - How much weight should be placed on looks? If you meet a girl whose personality you love, but whose looks do not tickle your fancy, should you still give it a try?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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followup

This is a followup on the thread I started. In the summer, I met this hot blonde from the internet at the mall. She seemed very shy and flustered because she hadn't met someone this way before, and she claimed she always gets shy when she meets someone new. I was really taken by her looks - she was perfect. Face, body, everything. The problem is that the way she acted turned me off a little- if she was shy, she was shy to the point of being rude and ultra nervous. At the time she had said she was interested in some guy at school - turns out that guy had a g/f already.

Should I pursue this girl? Physically, she's someone I'd probably go after in person even if I hadn't met her online first. But personality-wise, she's been a little weird. She's agreed to hanging out again but she keeps acting shy and a little evasive.

Tips?
 

strong like bull

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My question is - How much weight should be placed on looks? If you meet a girl whose personality you love, but whose looks do not tickle your fancy, should you still give it a try?

i would. actually, i am right now. ive been playing around with a girl who isnt an 8 or 10 or whatever, but has an awesome personality. she buys me things, cooks for me, and just treats me like a king. shes very compassionate, caring and is in touch with her feminine side. that is something i dont see often and i appreciate it.

i made a post asking a similar question a while back. one of the (imo) best responses was:

"Dont jack off for a week go to this b!tches appartment if the goods look good then you do what you want remember you dont have to have intercourse theres nothing wrong with a good groap and a suck."

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28109&highlight=settle

as far as the girl you met from the net, id stick to the basics. be your natural, charming and confident self. let the interaction unfold as it may. if you can let her interest rise, so be it. if she doesnt get hot and flakes, no big deal.

-SLB
 

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This is something you really need to just figure out for yourself. I personally think that a great personality can make up for so-so looks, but only to a certain extent. At some point, you're just better off being friends.
 
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