"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How much do you bench press?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TyTe`EyEs
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5'8, 165 lbs.
Bench: 180x8 (New personal record I set last week)
My best is 250 x 3. But that was when I was 200lbs, now I'm 185 (5'10). Haven't tried a single with anything heavier, but I probably could have got 265 for one.
Chest/bench has always been my weakest part/lift. I'm comparatively a fair bit stronger on other lifts. I would LOVE to have a strong bench, like say 300 x 5. Maybe I'll get there. I'm cutting at the moment, so my strength is way down, so I'll have to wait a few more months at least.
danielzxc said:290 is pretty good. (Maybe not for powerlifters, but for someone who works out more for looks, it is excellent.)
My best is 250 x 3. But that was when I was 200lbs, now I'm 185 (5'10). Haven't tried a single with anything heavier, but I probably could have got 265 for one.
Chest/bench has always been my weakest part/lift. I'm comparatively a fair bit stronger on other lifts. I would LOVE to have a strong bench, like say 300 x 5. Maybe I'll get there. I'm cutting at the moment, so my strength is way down, so I'll have to wait a few more months at least.
Well actually the gym I go too there are alot of members that can bench 315 pounds. That was always one of my goals. I think in order for me to bench that much I would probably have to weigh about 210 pounds and would look way too pudgy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
There's one guy at my gym who does 350 and he's about our size/height (but shredded). I STRONGLY suspect him of being on gear though. I mean, that kind of strength, and his workouts are not powerlifter style workouts, it's just very suspicious.. pretty cool if it's natural though.
Hockey Playa
Master Don Juan
5'11 182lbs
kickureface
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3x5 185
im around 150-155 5'9
my other buddies are like 5'11 160-165 and they do 205x5 for 2-3 sets. GRR!
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
I got my military press pretty good up there @ 185 for 1 rep and 160 for 5-6.
I'm a little guy too,i am only 140@5'7 lol
Damn dude that's bada55,wish I could hit 290!
What is your weight and how much do you bench?
Currently weigh 148 @ 9%(slowly dropping).
I have three different workouts for benching.
Dumbells;
-when I do four sets, 80lbx10 reps, 80lbx10, 85lbx8, 85x7(tyring for 8)
-Three sets(heavy) 80x10,85x8,90x6(trying for 8)
Barbell;
-in three sets, 185x10,205x8,225x5(trying for 8),for some reason when I go barbell I only want to go heavy.
I haven't maxed in almost a year,I would LOVE to try and hit 100+lb. dumbbells though. I wish I could but no spotter on chest day.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Some people are just naturally very strong.danielzxc said:Fkk it, if u have to get fat to do it. That's BS to me.
There's one guy at my gym who does 350 and he's about our size/height (but shredded). I STRONGLY suspect him of being on gear though. I mean, that kind of strength, and his workouts are not powerlifter style workouts, it's just very suspicious.. pretty cool if it's natural though.
No joke,I saw some guy barbell benching and check this out....He started off w/ 1 plate and added a plate a side every set,he did 4 sets. When he loaded the 8th plate I just stopped and watched,I had to see how many reps he was doing,he pushed out 4! Wtf?! I wonder what his max is!!!! Guy looked like he weighted about 220 or so,not too big but damn that guy was an Ox.simon said:Some people are just naturally very strong.
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[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
As for me, I'm 5'11" weigh 168 and have done 195 x 10 for best for reps. The max charts say I should be able to do between 255-260, but my best 1 rep max is 245.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.